When it comes to the spectrum of general sexuality, asexuality and demisexuality both fall on this spectrum, although differing in their specifics.
Asexuality refers to the inability to develop sexual attraction towards another person, along with little interest in any sexual activity. They may still form deep emotional bonds and enjoy physical intimacy without a sexual component.
Demisexuality is needing an emotional connection to be formed before being able to develop sexual attraction for someone. This means they don’t typically feel sexual attraction based solely on physical appearance or superficial interactions. Although demisexuality can be seen as a spectrum, with some individuals experiencing sexual attraction more easily than others.
Even though sexual attraction is affected in both sexualities, people identifying as asexual or demisexual are still able to form romantic feelings for someone. While they might be less widely understood than other sexual orientations, they are valid and important parts of the human experience.
Key Points
- Asexuality and demisexuality are individual identities. There is no right or wrong way to experience sexuality.
- Not all asexuals or demisexuals are aromantic. They may still experience romantic attraction.
- Asexual and demisexual experiences can vary widely. There is no one-size-fits-all definition, and people who identify as these sexualities can have very different experiences (as is true with any sexuality).
- It’s important to be respectful and understanding of individuals who identify as asexual or demisexual. Avoid making assumptions or stereotypes.
Challenges and Misconceptions
Asexual and demisexual individuals often face misunderstandings due to society’s damaging expectations and misconceptions. Any sexuality isn’t a choice, neither is it a phase. It’s a part of someone’s identity, and just because they’re not the standard ‘norm’ that many are exposed to, doesn’t make them any less real. With asexuality and demisexuality in particular, it’s important to remember that there isn’t anything wrong with the person who experiences a lack of sexual interest, or sexual interest differently to what society typically experiences.
Supporting Asexual and Demisexual Individuals
- Listen and believe them. Validate their experiences and avoid questioning their identity.
- Educate yourself. Learn more about asexuality and demisexuality to better understand their perspectives (while you’re at it, learn about other sexualities too to be able to understand as many people as possible).
- Be respectful of boundaries they set. If they express a desire to avoid sexual activity, respect their wishes.
By understanding and respecting asexuality and demisexuality, we can create a more inclusive and accepting society for everyone. We don’t all feel and experience things the same way, so we may as well