“Are you still a virgin?” “Did you do it yet?” These are probably the most distressing questions every teenager hears. Well, to all the virgins out there, you’re not alone; I can fully relate. I know that unnerving feeling you get at the pit of your stomach when someone asks you, “So how old were you when you lost your virginity?” I have always wondered as to how people can feel so comfortable to talk about their sexual encounters, and then, when it comes to someone that is not experienced, one automatically feels shamed.
Movies and television series have all taught us a thing or two about losing the V-card but then again, how prepared is one to actually have sex? It all depends on the character of the person and their beliefs too. There are a hundred of reasons why people haven’t fully gone down that road or up that road, depending on how you look at it. Rest assured though, that there is nothing wrong with you if you still are a virgin, the fact that society has placed this stigma that you need to do it or else you’re not part of society is absolutely the death of me. So, I have decided to come up with eleven reasons why I am still a virgin (because no, 10 reasons aren’t enough) with the little hope that maybe some of you out there won’t feel alone in the virginity vicious cycle;
1. I don’t know if there is someone who can give me more pleasure than chocolate does
2. I have never been in a relationship
3. I hate awkward situations (like everyone else)
4. I want to be comfortable
5. I am certainly not fit enough
6. Pampering is exhausting
7. I don’t know if I can endure pain and pleasure at the same time
8. Because ’Fifty Shades of Grey’ was enough
The book is just so detailed that I know what to expect, I think!
9. I don’t think that movies and PSD lessons have actually taught me enough on what to do exactly
10. The fear of getting pregnant
Yes, you know you will use every contraception possible because the thought of maybe conceiving a child will make you think twice, if you are actually ready to be intimate with someone.
11. Body issues
How I feel after I take a look at my body:
I do not know if anyone out there can relate to what I believe are very solid arguments to why I have not lost my virginity. Most of the reasons why I haven’t been intimate with anyone are related to the physical aspect. Nevertheless, I do believe that I have yet not been emotionally connected with anyone. As I see it virginity and sex are way too overrated, some view it as the act of love other than just simple f***ing. Everyone is entitled to make his or her decision of whether they are ready or not, without being stigmatized by society.